Wednesday, July 25, 2012

5 reasons why laughter really is the best medicine

5 Reasons Why Laughter Is the Best Medicine
Blog 7.25"Joy in one's heart and some laughter on one's lips is a sign that the person down deep has a pretty good grasp of life."- American journalist Hugh Sidey
How many times do you laugh each day? I think we could all use a little more laughter in our lives. Sure, sometimes humor can be distorted. People use it to hurt others and some go dark and perverse with it, but comedy can still be good, clean fun. Sometimes things can get you down. Life is full of stress, grief, and heartache. But oftentimes, it's better to laugh than cry. Laughter really is the best medicine, and here are some reasons why:
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1. God loves it. I believe that God loves to see us laugh. When I was younger, I saw Christian comedian and singer Mark Lowry in concert. I bought one of his books, and in it he talks about God and humor. Something I read has stuck with me to this day. Explaining why he thinks God enjoys seeing us laugh, he said, "What healthy father doesn't love to hear his children laugh?" While there are certainly times to get serious, I believe God enjoys hearing laughter in the middle of fellowship.
2. It keeps us healthy. God made laughing good for us. Research shows that laughter plays an important role in both physical and mental health. According to HelpGuide.org, laughing helps boost immunity, decrease pain, lower stress, relax mood, and ease anxiety.
3. It can help us learn. We all learn and remember more when there is an emotional attachment to a lesson. Think back on your life. The times you recall the quickest are probably times you were laughing or crying. The American Psychological Association also says that laughter can lead to better learning. Although the APA says it's possible to overdo it, your lessons will stick with your kids better if they are having fun.
4. It can bridge gaps. Sometimes the shortest distance between two people is a joke. Members of the Christian Comedy Association know that, and many of their members present faith-based truths in a form that can reach people in a unique, inviting way. They use laughter as a tool, and so can you.
5. It keeps life in perspective. HelpGuide.org also brings up this point. When a problem comes your way, how do you handle it? Don't stress, lighten up! Ask yourself if it is really that bad and worth getting upset over. Breathe, laugh, and look at the problem as an opportunity. A good sense of humor will help you keep going and keep your team from stressing.
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Here are two challenges for you this week. First, help your team grow closer together by doing something to make them laugh. Tell a joke, share a story, play a game, or ask them if something funny has happened recently. Second, when you hear your kids laugh, find out what's so funny. Join them in their laughter and let them put a smile on your face!
The most important thing to do is to smile. Remember where your joy comes from and who is in control. Doing so will help you laugh at anything life throws at you.

Tuesday, July 24, 2012

Tuesday with Tiff VIDEO : praying with your fingers!

Are you busy?

Anyone Busy Today?
I love to keep busy. I feel guilty if I am not doing something. I’m a driven, type A, only child. Give me something to do or else I’ll create something to do. Rest is not only hard for me, but it also feels impossible.

Here’s an interesting scenario that I encounter frequently. When I see someone I haven’t seen in a while, I usually ask a question and, in turn, I usually get the same question volleyed back to me. That question is, “How are you doing?” The typical response is, “Great. Busy. How about you?” For some reason, we not only like to keep busy, but we also like to tell others about it.

The reason I give the “I’m busy” answer is to validate how hard a worker I am. I mean, I’m not a slacker! In some way, I’ve connected my self-esteem to how much work and how much I can “output” on a daily basis. I feel more important when I am busy. I feel like I can better justify my existence. I also feel that if I am busier than the next person, have more projects on the table, I am more successful in others’ eyes. Sick, I know, but true.

The other day I went mindfully into a conversation with someone I hadn’t seen in a long time. I knew the question would come up in the first five minutes, and it did. The first person I ran into said, “Hey, Craig, how you doing?” And then he put the busy question right on a tee for me. “You been busy?” I could feel a strong desire to say, “Shoot, I have been so busy lately it’s not even funny,” but I didn’t. I fought every emotional piece of energy in my mind and body, took a deep breath and said, “No, not real busy . . . trying to be more balanced.”

Time stopped, the matrix was on. The other person didn’t know how to respond. We were both in uncharted water. Now what? Usually this was all preprogrammed. I had violated the first unwritten rule of I-haven’t-seen-you-in-a-while-what-have-you-been-up-to etiquette. The response I received back was, “Oh, good for you,” and then he walked away, and I stood there an emotional basket case. If only I could have said, “Busy, How About You?” Then things would have been great. I guess I’m still learning, so, How are you doing?

Thursday, July 19, 2012

100 most influencial toys

Time Magazine recently listed the 100 most influential toys from 1923 to present.

What makes toys popular? Gene Del Vecchio, in his book Creating Ever Cool...a Marketer's Guide to a Child's Heart, identifies the reasons why certain toys are so successful. He says it is because they resonate with the inner, emotional needs of children.

As you go through this list, ponder these questions...
  • What emotional need of a child does this toy meet? (an example would be a doll...the need in girls to nurture or army men...the need in boys to feel powerful)
  • What can we learn from this toy about connecting with children?
  • How can we incorporate this into our Children's Ministry?
Radio Flyer Wagon
Top 100 Toys

Chemistry Set
Top 100 Toys

Joy Buzzer
Top 100 Toys

Yo-Yo
Top 100 Toys

Pop-Up Book
Top 100 Toys

Stuffed Mickey Mouse

Top 100 Toys

(due to web-layout parameters, the rest do not include pics)
Finger Paint
Sock Monkey
Buck Rogers Rocket Pistol
Microscope Set
Beach Ball
Red Ryder BB Gun
Army Men
View Master
Bubbles
Little Golden Books
Slinky
Magic 8 Ball
Legos
Water Balloon
Silly Putty
Fisher-Price Little People
Colorforms
Paint-by-Numbers Kit
Mr. Potato Head
Wiffle Ball
Matchbox Car
Pez Dispenser
Gumby
Play-Doh
Tonka Truck
Frisbee
Corn Popper
Two-Handed Pogo Stick
Hula Hoop
Barbie
Troll Doll
Plarail Toy Train
Fake Vomit
Etch-A-Sketch
Rock-a-Stack
Ken
Slip N' Slide
Chatter Telephone
G.I. Joe
Easy-Bake Oven
Creepy Crawlers
Rock'em Sock'em Robots
Johnny Seven O.M.A.
See N' Say
SuperBall
Barrel of Monkeys
Radio-Controlled Car
Lite-Brite
Hot Wheels
Playmobil
Flatsy Doll
Barbie's Dream House
Nerf Ball
Weebles
Paddington Bear
Baby Alive
Shrinky Dinks
Magna Doodle
Rubik's Cube
Stretch Armstrong
Star Wars Action Figure
Mattel Classic Football
Simon
Star Trek Electronic Phasers
Cabbage Patch Kids
Polly Pocket
Slap Bracelet
Master's of the Universe Action Figure
Glo Worm
Care Bear
My Little Pony
Transformers
Teddy Ruxpin
Snoopy Sno-Cone Machine
Pound Puppy
Koosh Ball
Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles
Skip-It
Glow Stick
Wrestling Buddy
Little Tikes Log Cabin
Little Tike Cozy Coupe Car
Super Soaker
Beanie Baby
Buzz Lightyear
American Girl Doll
Tickle Me Elmo
Furby
Neodymium-Magnet Toy
Bratz
Mindflex
Zhu Zhu

4 Types of Abuse and How to Spot Them

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According to Childhelp.org, every year nearly 6 million children in the U.S. experience child abuse, and four children under age 4 die each day due to abuse. As a community of people who work with kids and strive to show them love, this is a sad and shocking statistic. We must all make an effort to help put a stop to this terrible trend.
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What Is Child Abuse?
Although different states have different terms and definitions, child abuse usually falls under four main categories: physical, neglect, sexual, and emotional. The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services' Child Welfare Information Gatewayprovides some useful information on the subject.
Physical- These are nonaccidental injuries and harm that come from a child's caretaker. It doesn't matter if the adult meant to hurt the child or not. According to the Child Welfare Information Gateway, physical discipline, such as spanking or paddling, is not considered abuse as long as it is reasonable and causes no bodily injury to the child.
Neglect- When a child's basic needs are not being met, that is also considered abuse. Caretakers must provide physical needs (food and shelter), medical needs, educational needs, and emotional needs (not allowing kids to use alcohol or drugs, giving psychological help when needed).
Sexual- The exploitation of children is a form of abuse. Allowing children to engage in, or expose them to, any form of inappropriate sexual situations falls under this category of abuse.
Emotional- This can be the hardest form of abuse to identify, but if a child is being abused in another way, emotional abuse can usually be found as well. In brief, emotional abuse stunts a child's emotional growth with threats, rejection, or insults.

What Are the Signs?
There are some simple signs you can look for that will help you spot child abuse. The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services' Child Welfare Information Gateway gives these tips to look for:
Does the child seem like he or she is always looking for something bad to happen? Is he passive or overly compliant? Has she had a sudden change in behavior? Does the parent blame the child for most of their problems? Asks for harsh physical discipline when their child misbehaves? When the child and parent are together, are they separated and don't look at each other?
These may be signs that abuse is present. There are also specific red flags to look for when abuse is suspected.
Physical- A child may have unexplained injuries, doesn't want to leave to go home, or is frightened of other parents.
Neglect- A child steals food or begs for more, isn't wearing appropriate clothing for the weather, or is always dirty and has a strong body odor.
Sexual- A child has difficulty walking or sitting, experiences sudden changes in their appetite, or may demonstrate unusual or sophisticated sexual knowledge.
Emotional- A child demonstrates extreme emotional behaviors (super aggressive or overly passive), acts too mature or too childish, or does not show any attachment to their caretaker.
These signs are not always connected to abuse, but if you see one or more of these in a child, consider the possibility of maltreatment.

What Can I Do?
Prevent Child Abuse America says that one way to help stop child abuse before it starts is to help reduce stress on families. Lend a helping hand and be a friend to parents who need it. Get to know neighbors and families of your kids and show them that you are there for them.
If you suspect abuse has already occurred, make sure to report it. Most states have their own numbers to call, and Childhelp USA has a national Child Abuse Hotline that operates 24/7 (1.800.4.A.CHILD).
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We see in Matthew 18 just how much Jesus loves children. All kids deserve protection. If you suspect something, report it, and be the voice for a child who needs it.
Not too long ago, I read another statistic that made my heart break. A recent article by the New York Times says that children with disabilities are four times more likely to be attacked physically and three times more likely to be attacked sexually. Abuse is more prevalent with these special kids. We have tips on how to help develop ministry to kids with disabilities, so you can give these kids a safe place to come and feel loved.

Monday, July 16, 2012

20 Questions to Determine if it's a Good Thing or a God Thing













I read a very interesting scripture last week in Acts 16. Check it out.

"Next Paul and Silas traveled through the area of Phrygia and Galatia, because the Holy Spirit had prevented them from preaching the word in the province of Asia at that time. Then coming to the borders of Mysia, they headed north for the province of Bithynia, but again the Spirit of Jesus did not allow them to go there."

Was it a "good thing" for Paul to go and minister to the people in Asia, Mysia, and Bithynia? Of course. But it wasn't a "God thing." He had other plans for them. Check out the rest of the verses.

"That night Paul had a vision: A man from Macedonia in northern Greece was standing there, pleading with him, “Come over to Macedonia and help us! So we decided to leave for Macedonia at once, having concluded that God was calling us to preach the Good News there."

This time it was a "God thing." See the difference?

In your ministry, you will constantly be offered "good things" to do. Programs, ideas, events, and initiatives will come your way in abundance. But just because it's a "good thing" doesn't mean it's a "God thing" for your ministry.

So how do you know the difference? Here's 20 questions to ask yourself.
  1. Have I sought God in prayer about this?
  2. Will this help fulfill the vision God has for our ministry?
  3. Does this line up with our strategy and direction?
  4. What spiritual step will this help people take?
  5. How will this impact the ministry as a whole?
  6. How will this impact resources and staff?
  7. How will this impact other ministries?
  8. Is this sustainable?
  9. Is this opportunity already offered at other churches in our area?
  10. Is this a "niche" that God wants us to use?
  11. Is the opportunity based on the personal interest of a few?
  12. Am I willing to move something else off the plate to make this happen?
  13. Will this bear fruit that remains?
  14. Will this help us reach people who are lost or just bring in consumer church people from other churches?
  15. How many volunteers will it take to make it happen?
  16. Will it pull volunteers away from other key areas?
  17. Am I doing a lot of things with mediocrity or a few things with excellence?
  18. Am I keeping things simple?
  19. How will this affect the weekend service(s)?
  20. Am I doing this just to "keep the peace?"

Thursday, July 12, 2012

Let's get more people!

Check out these great tips from fellow kidmin leaders!


Plug People Into Relationships

People will leave a task before they'll leave a relationship. So it's important to always have at least two people assigned to serve together on a given task.

Here's how this worked for me. We had a large group/small group ministry. So we needed people to do things behind the scenes to make our ministry shine. For example, we had a Supply Team that gathered supplies for the small group leaders and put them in boxes each week.

I'm sure one person could've done this all by herself each week, but instead I recruited four different women who became the best of friends. Each week they would gather to sort through the supplies. While they worked, they laughed, shared needs, and got to know one another.

Their longevity in our ministry was directly tied to their friendship with one another. Let's be honest, it's easy to leave a thing, but when you partner people with each other, they become friends. And saying goodbye to a friend is always tougher.

I know...it doubles your recruiting work on the front end if you have to get twice as many people. But just imagine how much easier it'll be when you don't have to fill holes because people are committed to serving with their friends.



Feeling Good
What would these volunteers change to make volunteering more enjoyable?

Mo' Volunteers -- Without a doubt, volunteers' #1 request is more volunteers. Fifty percent of the surveyed volunteers stressed that their ministry needs more volunteers. It's encouraging that a major portion of those concerned about the need for more workers suggest that the solution is in making others aware. Many volunteers expressed great hope that if more would only hear and understand the simplicity of a child's faith, they too would be compelled to draw close to the children.

"Maybe we could 'require' everyone to volunteer to see how much fun it is and how rewarding," says Diane Cunningham, an aide at Living Word Outreach Church in Lansing, Michigan. "Of course, then it wouldn't be 'volunteering,' would it?"

Linda Parks, the nursery department leader at Central Church in Memphis, Tennessee, says, "If there was one thing I'd change it would be that more people would be yielding to the call of the Lord. They would be richly blessed for it."

To make more people aware of what a great place your children's ministry is, communicate the reality of the vital and authentic faith these children own and the need for volunteers to guide and protect that faith.

Annette Gelispie, a teacher/coordinator at Living Word Outreach Church, says, "I think it's good to post reports of the good things that are happening in children's ministry." This allows your church to get excited about God's work in kids' lives.

Marsha Kiel, a nursery worker from the Vineyard Christian Fellowship in Indianapolis, agrees. She says, "We need to tell about what a blessing it is to be a part of the children's ministry team on Sunday mornings."

Communication With Parents -- A significant number of volunteers desire more communication and stronger relationships with parents of the children they serve. This desire was often declared with an edge of resentment and demand for change as these volunteers were challenged by their own perception of parents abandoning their children in the area of spiritual development.

Of those who are concerned by the lack of parental involvement and support, some would like to have a policy that would require parents to participate in the care and teaching of their children. This expressed desire regarding parental involvement was rooted in the base-line concern and need for more workers.

Lasting Involvement
Every time you hang onto a volunteer, that's one less volunteer you'll have to recruit. It's worth figuring out what it is that retains your volunteers. There were two primary reasons given by the survey respondents when asked why they continue to volunteer.

Joy Like a Fountain -- The first and most frequent response was that they experience joy in their ministry to children. Seventy percent of the volunteers stay around because they love children or enjoy being with them. Their commitment gives them a great deal of pleasure and satisfaction.
Norma Malone, a teacher at Solid Rock Christian Center in Ventura, California, was recruited "by the children for the children" and she continues to volunteer because it's "easy and fun. I enjoy every minute!"

The fun factor also motivates teenager Brian Kemp, an aide from Living Word Outreach Church in Lansing, Michigan, to continue volunteering with children, "I have fun. I love seeing the children grow spiritually and it helps me grow as well." Brian is discovering that serving not only benefits the children, but blesses him as well.

Personal Growth -- Approximately 25 percent of the volunteers talked about how their spiritual growth and development is connected to serving these little people. They recognize that by contributing to the faith development of a child their faith increases and grows substantially.

This group also sensed that they possess the calling or gift to specifically work with children. "I feel it's what God wants me to do. And I learn more about my own relationship with God as I teach," says Sandy Kendell, a teacher at Hill Country Bible Church in Georgetown, Texas.

God blesses volunteers with joy and the discovery of a newfound love, with recognition and challenge by the simplicity of a child's faith, and with acknowledgment that from week to week they encounter one of God's freshest creations.

For the child who is in relationship with a special kind of volunteer, life will never be the same. When a volunteer gives a child love, acceptance, forgiveness, a shared life, care, and nurture, the child is able to experience the very presence of God.

Out Of The Mouths Of Volunteers
Other choice quotes from the volunteers who responded to Children's Ministry Magazine's survey.
"Working with preschoolers is my calling. My work makes me complete. I would try to show others how rewarding volunteering is. The work and frustration are well worth it."
Dee Herdman
Columbus, Ohio


"I enjoy having a co-teacher so that I'm able to take a break now and then."
Judy Rutherford
Troy, Michigan


"I love to see the spark in kids' eyes when they learn something new."
Gloria Stoppenhagen
Houston, Texas


"We don't have a [paid] children's minister. We get support from one another who work in this area."
Kathy Chenault
Oklahoma City, Oklahoma


"I enjoy the kids, and I want to make a difference in somebody's life."
Brian VanAlstine
Kalkaska, Michigan


"We may know about God, but these children KNOW God. I continually learn from them!"
Sue Rebich
Charlotte, North Carolina


"Volunteering is what you get out of it. If you want to do it, it's enjoyable and rewarding. If it becomes a chore, then you should cease your volunteering."
Judy Asche
Lakeland, Florida

Wednesday, July 11, 2012